The Grace-Gift of Belonging
To be known, loved, and accepted is a deep need of every heart.
Belong is a word that pulls up powerful emotions from the well down deep in our hearts.

Belong has a space all its own in the real-estate of our hearts, one that is often sanded down with the grit of experiences of wanting to fit in, to be accepted as we are.
Often marked by the experiences and emotions where we didn’t belong, it can be tempting to overlook the many blessings of belonging. Life as a military family has offered up changing opportunities to belong…or not.
Belonging for the military family
“Belong” is a tough word for military families, frequently moving from one duty station to another. Change seems to be the constant of our lives, and it is hard to find the oasis of belonging in a desert of different.
The hardest part of frequent moves is the uprooting of belonging. Support systems, friendships, groups, jobs and loved places–these are just a few of the treasures that have left a deep imprint on our souls in each place of belonging.
The day I had to physically pull my 7-year-old daughter apart from her first best friend, I fought back tears thinking, my heart is going to fall out, right here on the front porch.
Red-faced with hot tears streaming, my little one sobbed, “Don’t make me leave, Mommy. Why can’t Rachel come with us? We belong together.”
So painful, this first experience of a child now old enough to understand the security of belonging.
For the military family, belonging includes a new address every few years. It can be so hard to let go of belonging when the moving truck is packed, the orders are stamped, and it is time to leave. In the leaving, there is the fear of not belong mixed with the pain of heart-wrenching goodbyes.

Belonging.
Not belonging…yet.
Belonging again.
This is the life rhythm that our family has gotten used to. Yet as hard as it is to embrace change and risk belonging, we are all the richer for it.
There is a strength in each of my children that is not dependent on belonging to a particular group of friends. They have learned that given time, friends are found everywhere God sends us. They have experienced the strong bond of belonging to our family is not tied to any particular address.
We’ve learned to give the grace-gift of belonging
We have all learned that we each have the gift of belonging to give to others. To welcome with a smile and an invitation, to get involved with care, to include and bless–these are the gifts of belonging that we can give.
Maybe the best lesson of all has been this:
When we give to bring others in, to invite them to belong, acceptance is no longer an issue. We run faster and live lighter in the grace of giving the gift of belonging to others.
When we honor God and embrace others, we find belonging happens naturally.
“Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer, contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality”–Romans 12:10-12
Live to bless rather than belong.

What has been your greatest challenge to belong?
No Ordinary Moments: Discover Grace in the Small Things
Time quiet and peaceful is a gift in today’s crazy, cranked up world. Fast paced is the new normal, and time alone breathing deep the beauty of God is a rare thing. Rare like today. An afternoon out of time, toes in the sand and eyes filled with sun glittering on water.
I bask in the beauty of water that reflects sky, with waves set by the eternal hand of God. Never stopping, never pausing to rest, waves keep meeting the shore in a partnership that never tires, never forgets, never overlooks. I drink in life as I am nourished by grace. Worship of the best kind.
“One thing I have asked from the Lord, that I shall seek; that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life. To behold the beauty of the LOFD, and to meditate in His temple.”–Psalm 27:4
“If you don’t give yourself room to breathe, you won’t give God room to move,”writes Randy Alcorn in a recent article.
I walk along the edge of the shore, enjoying a hunt for treasures small and lovely. I search the sand for shells, sometimes whole, but mostly bits and pieces. Glimpses of what was once whole, these shell-bits are broken by the pressure of waves or crunched underfoot.
Though marked and shaped by time, these fragments display a beauty of shape, color, and texture that speaks with a quiet richness that so many miss. Whether broken or whole there is peace in the small things.
There is so much we miss when we’re too busy to look past the tasks and problems of a day. Bits of shell on a beach remind me to breathe, to quiet my soul and enjoy God in the moment.
To notice art in the small things, majesty in the ordinary moments, I must slow down and truly see. Maybe that is why I love beach combing so much. It is time that I give myself permission to meander with eyes intentional. It is time to remember there are no ordinary moments when God is in it.
Time to look for the small treasures that are easily overlooked, half covered by sand. There is a place in my heart that appreciates, even treasures, the grace of a shell. Gathered one by one, collected in bowls and jars, I keep these reminders of God’s presence in the details.
My thoughts turn from the physical to the spiritual, from the seen to the unseen. Beauty in the small things. God moves through the simplicity of a shell, and grace sets rights my soul.
How seldom do I look for, or even notice, the small but beautiful fragments in myself or in others? Trained to work for the whole, to accomplish big and impressive, it is easy to overlook the small graces and the steps of growth. Easy to discount the ordinary moments and loose sight of the God-glory stamped in us all.
These bits of shell remind me to relish the little movements and achievements. It is far too easy to criticize the small, seeing only the absence of the whole. Too tempting to miss what I lack rather than rejoice in what I have.
When I elevate the importance of what is missing, what is still in that secret place of not yet, the incompleteness begins to look like failure. Abundance and growth, being in process becomes a place of scarcity when I cannot see the unique beauty of the bits and pieces.
Judgments rise up and I toss aside the fragments, devalued and imperfect. Unfinished or broken, my definitions become decrees in this place of longing for the whole. Why do we have this sin-born, faith-lacking tendency to define a small slice of time, one action, attitude, or effort and judge what we think we see as the end result?
Why is it so easy to look at one step along the way, mistaking it for the destination?
As I wash the sand away and place my small treasures in my pocket, I am reminded to appreciate the simple, imperfect steps toward wholeness and growth. Grace to appreciate what is rather than find fault with what is not.
Reminded to take life fresh and look for grace like a treasure, I have breathed in the pleasure of God that is found in these quiet spaces.
Today I celebrate the small graces, the bits of beauty, and steps of victory. With sand on my hands, joy in my pocket, and peace in my soul I am restored. Living large in the beauty of the moment I discover the extraordinary.
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It’s easy to discount the ordinary moments and loose sight of the God-glory stamped in us all.
Living large in the beauty of the moment I discover the extraordinary.
Ever Feel Like You’re Camped Out Next to Crazy?
Let’s face it, sometimes life can get more than a little nuts.
At least in my corner of the world it can.
Crazy schedules packed tight with more to do than will fit in a day. Trying to keep up, I am amazed at how easy it is to forget details. I keep a list, but too often I misplace it and then what good is the list-thing?
Well summer is here and it’s time to recharge the Mom-i-tude, that all important ingredient to functional moms and happy homes. Cause you know the old cliche is true–if Mamma ain’t happy, nobody is happy.
This summer, don’t let a frazzled mom-i-tude keep you from enjoying time with your family. Take time to recharge your spiritual energy and make the most of summer days.
Click over to my latest post at 5 Minutes for Faith and gather up some ideas for renewing your happy this summer. No sense staying camped out next to crazy, right? This article posted the day I left for summer vacation, so I decided to heed my own advice and take time to refresh. Home again and back in the saddle, it’s time to share.
How do you refresh your attitude when the craziness of life starts to eat at you?
21 Ways to Refresh Your Spiritual Routine
Loving summer! School is out and the kids are home.

We love lazy days of summer where soft sand calls our name, lulling us with invitations to spend the days swimming or combing beach for sea treasures. Camps, activities and vacations beckon us toward memories to be made for a lifetime.
Whether your calendar is brimming with plans or open to quiet days, summer provides a chance to take a deep breath of the soul. [tweetthis]Enjoy a change of pace and refresh your spiritual routine.[/tweetthis]
The purpose of spiritual refreshment is to reframe our perspective, opening up our spirits to enjoy God afresh. Too often, we make our spiritual lives complicated, heaping on guilt, and trying to earn what we’ve already got. We can get bogged down and feel stale instead of inspired.
This summer, relax and relate to God in some new ways. Let relationship overtake routine and reconnect with God.
Draw near to Him and He WILL draw near to you. (James 4:8).
Try these ideas for enjoying God in the midst of your summer days. Mix it up and let go of any misplaced pressure to devotional duty. Refresh by spending time with God in different ways. The intent of this list is not just another thing to do–we’ve got more than enough of that.
[tweetthis]21 ways to refresh your spiritual routine this summer.[/tweetthis]
- Try a new devotional.
- Read a Psalm every day.
- Take a regular prayer walk.
- Make a new playlist of worship songs–and really worship when you listen.
- Look with new eyes–worship with your camera to appreciate the beauty of life.
- Embrace goodness–keep a running list of joyful moments.
- Write thankful notes to God on slips of paper and place in a pretty container.
- Pray Scripture– soak in truth, letting your prayer be guided by God’s Word.
- Make a spiritual scrapbook–collect scriptures, insights, moments, and pictures.
- Sit with Jesus on your porch–practice the art of being still.
- Hang out with friends with intentional conversation of truth and joy.
- Read a spiritual book as a family or gathering of friends.
- Rest–invite Christ into your rest and be intentional about recharging.
- Lay on your back, watch the clouds drift by and talk to God from the heart.
- Expect God–look for God moments in your day.
- Let go of one thing that has been causing stress by releasing it to God.
- Celebrate life and cherish love.
- Practice meditating on Scripture–it’s easier than you think!
- De-clutter your mind and schedule.
- Laugh loud and look at life from the perspective of a child.
- Get outside and enjoy time soaking in natural beauty to bring rest to your soul.
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Recharge Your Spirit This Summer
Summer calls and I am longing to slow down. I yearn for a change of pace, ready to draw close to God and recharge from the busy pace of the past year. I am ready to enjoy God, listen with my life, and be transformed by His presence.
Do you long to live a balance of seeking God without getting stuck in a legalistic, earn-it mentality? This summer, let’s find that delicate delight of thirsting for God’s presence rather than working for His approval. It is that invisible place of acceptance where we simply desire to know God with a heart ready to receive and willing to worship.
Let creation open your spirit to God.
I walk along the beach, toes in the sand and surf pounding in my ears. Sunlight sparkles on water, turning the world into a glittery place of light. Beauty surrounds me and peace recharges my soul.
Earthly beauty is a reflection, a tiny taste of God’s glory. We see and hear in tangible ways through what He has created. It is an experiential seeing and listening, and our heart worships as we soak in the wonder of God. It helps us look beyond the hurry-scurry tasks of today, past the problems that often plague us.
We experience more of God through what He has made. We are blessed. Refreshed. We have before our appreciating eyes, testimony—evidence—of the creative power and infinite variety of God. Built within our hearts is this capacity to recognize God’s existence in the majesty of what He has created.
The beauty of nature is the revelation of God.
“For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.”–Romans 1:20
Appreciating God’s creation nourishes faith.
Like food for the body, natural splendor feeds the soul with the majesty of God. Peace fills and our hearts rest.
Our generous, gift-giving God has love-crafted us with five senses with which we can enjoy beauty, drink it in through hearts hungry for more of God. It’s time to kindle our gifts and recharge our fire.
Get outside.
Take delight in God’s beauty revealed all around you.
Breathe deep, letting delight spark deep appreciation for the beauty of God.
Let all things beautiful open the eyes of your soul to God’s goodness…and refresh your soul. <Tweet.
What are you doing this summer to refresh your soul?
<Tweet Are you ready for a change of pace, to draw close to God and recharge this summer?
How do you Handle it When Others Sin?
How do you handle it when other people sin? This is a loaded question for sure. Packed tight with mixed emotions and many experiences, responding to sinful actions can be a challenge.
You know you’re in for some talking to when the Apostle Paul starts out with Dear brothers and sisters. That’s I’m-getting-ready-to-set-you-straight kind of talk. These words are tough love wrapped up with affection.
Read the verses below and see what I mean:
So dear friends, let’s tackle these tough-love words written to help us navigate the often tricky waters of handling problems and getting along with others.
We all have a tendency to think we know best, often with a dose of self-righteousness on the side. We serve up advice, confident we’ve got it together. At least I do.
Sometimes we get a little too impatient with the shortcomings of those around us–particularly from those we expect better of.
Here’s the problem: if another believer falls into sin.
Since we all struggle with sin and selfishness, chances are we are going to have to deal with this problem. Everyone sins. We all make mistakes, say irritating words, and do wrong things. I’d be the happiest mom on the planet if everyone around me would behave all the time, but that just isn’t going to happen.
There is a relationship implied by the phrase, another believer. Paul is writing to a group of people, the Galatian church, and this instruction is to be applied within that relationship. Therefore, I’m not going to hang out at Walmart looking for total strangers to correct.
Wouldn’t that have been nice when my kids were misbehaving toddlers? How many times did someone bang me over the head with “advice” on what I should be doing to keep my child from screaming like a cat with their tail on fire. No this is not random, anonymous condemnation that Paul is talking about. There’s way too much of that in this world already.
Here’s the responsibility: you who are godly.
Personally, I don’t like confrontation, and I’m not comfortable correcting people (except for my children and then I can lecture with gusto). With spiritual maturity comes a bit of responsibility–don’t go ballistic when others do wrong, but not to ignore it either. You see, I’d much rather look the other way and not have to say anything. This is much easier than getting involved and helping someone get back on the right track.
With this quick little description, Paul is talking about those who are actually trying to apply God’s word and His ways to life. He doesn’t say experts, and He doesn’t say church goers. These words are highlight the importance of sincere faith with obedience to back it up.
Hmm…correction isn’t for just anyone then, is it?
The how-to: confront with gentleness and humility.
How would our homes, families, and communities be different if we responded with gentle grace when others stomp on our last nerve? How could relationships grow if we get involved with humility, coming alongside to help, rather than looking down the nose and pointing the finger with judgment and a lecture?
We’ve all heard the cliché hate the sin, but love the sinner. There is great truth to this often quoted statement. Love for others reminds us to address problems with velvet steel rather than a chainsaw, ripping loose with impatient words and angry retorts. Yikes, I am feeling the discomfort of too many frustrated tirades fired off at my kids. (Yes, they are sinners…)
I need to remember that gentleness is a fruit of the Spirit and is actually a demonstration of true strength under control.
The warning: be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself.
When we’re in the right and someone else is clearly wrong, we need this oh-by-the-way warning. We are just as capable with making mistakes, creating problems, and downright sinning. Humbling thing, isn’t it?
This is why we need to correct with love and humility, understanding that we all struggle with sin.
The response: share each other’s burdens
This little instruction really changes the perspective on “dealing” with people who have sinned. Maybe we need to come down off our high I’m-not-the-one-with-the-problem horse, and be willing to help. In this passage, there is much more about how we handle the sins of others, rather than a license to condemn sin. (By the way, that’s God’s job, right?)
Don’t we all have the burden of temptation? Struggle with the consequences of our own issues? I don’t know about you, but I’m tempted to sin every day.
Every. Single. Day.
Standing firm and doing the right thing is hard, especially when you’ve worked up a heaping portion of I-want-it-my-way.
When we help one another stay on the right track, relationships grow strong and we are all better off.
What is your greatest temptation when someone else sins?
It’s Not All About the Words: Photography is Art in the Moment
Words are a wonderful treasure. They are a gift we bring to the world. From the profound to the mundane–and every stop in between–words are a vehicle for good communication. One of the basic rules of good writing is “show, don’t tell” by incorporating the five senses, bringing the reader into the experience.
As much as I love writing, it’s not all about the words. Photography is art in the moment. I find great joy in communicating through visual images. There are just some things that I can express better by showing what I see, little slices of art in the details. Light, color, lines, composition, perspective, and texture are the tools that go far beyond words when I have a camera in my hand.
David Molnar says that the best camera in the world is the one that is in your hand. So true, and I am grateful for the technology of a good camera on my phone.
Today I am sharing recent time of worship through photography. As I write this post, a new phrase comes to mind, Worship Photography. For me, this is time spent with God appreciating the beauty and art all around, fingerprints of God’s touch on the world around us. Worship through images is a time of fellowship with God appreciating the glory in the simple things, a moment in time held in my hand. The following pictures were taken on the campus at Ridgecrest Conference Center, location of the Blue Ridge Christian Mountain Writers Conference that I recently attended. (#brmcwc).
From my heart to yours, enjoy the worship photography from Ginger Harrington.


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Write Your Words: A Look at Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writers Conference
I recently returned from Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writers Conference and have been trying to catch up on a whirlwind of a spring. I am pretty sure it’s time to install a revolving door on the front of the house. A drive-through window would be handy as well.
I am supposed to be able to blog my way through anything, but the reality is, sometimes the pace of life and the needs of family take over. I’m sorry that I haven’t been able to post on my normal schedule, but I hope you’ll understand:)
Thoughts after the conference.
Writing is a state of mind. Sometimes it feels like an out-of-body experience, this expressing of thoughts wrapped up with heart and imagination. Weaving words built on a foundation of truth brings joy. To write well–clear, concise, and convincing–is an art. And it is a gift.
Writing is also community. Community built between writers and readers, ideas shared and enjoyed. Yet often writing is a lonely business filled with frustrations and rejections. Open ended, words meant for community can seem like a one-way street. I loved getting to spend real-time with my online Word Weaver’s group. We have met monthly to encourage and edit as we hone our craft.
What happens when you put hundreds of writers together for four days of learning and sharing? Computers, pens, and papers are happily traded for handshakes, classes, and conversations. It is a mighty thing, this putting creative, writing minds together.
My friend Alycia Morales is an author and editor who has encouraged me in many ways in this writing adventure. She was my roommate last year and joined the faculty this year.
Business is conducted as new ideas are shared with editors and agents. New projects are dreamed up in the midst of lunch conversations. I had the chance to have appointments with several agents and editors. It was a great time to pitch new projects, ask questions, and develop relationships. The picture below shows some appointments in process. I was thrilled with some new opportunities and I will follow up and see what happens!
Friendships are formed in what can be a rather solitary life. Opportunities, instruction, direction, and encouragement are just a few of the by-products of God at work.
This is my friend Andy Lee, a fellow military spouse writer. I am excited for Andy who has a Bible study on Ruth coming out.
This is my friend Aaron Gansky. We like to clown around and make faces.
God gave me a wonderful image during the conference. His hands moving puzzle pieces around, gently putting the pieces that belong together–this was a powerful image of what God was doing during the conference. I experienced this may times over during the four days of the conference. I am grateful–filled up and overflowing–for each connection God gave.
These lovely ladies are such an encouragement to me. I have been blessed by sharing this writing journey with them. It’s always great to see Edie Melson, mentor and friend.
Inspiration to share from Blue Ridge Christian Writers Conference:
Eva Marie Everson inspired us to write for the one as we pursue excellence in craft.
Brian Bird shared 10 Thou Shalts for Christian Writers. He reminded us that God was and is a writer. He also encouraged us to be in the business of loving people and encouraging the next generation.
Al Gansky said “Trust God to use your words to achieve His purpose.”
Diana Flagel told us “Be comfortable in your own voice. What you are generally drawn to us what you write best.”
Another Ganskyism: “No one ever hit a home run from the dugout.”
La Tan Murphy encouraged me to walk in confidence in the arena I’ve been given.
Edie Melson reminded us that a detour is not a roadblock, “Frequently detours are God’s shortest path to the road you’re really supposed to be on.”
“Talent without persistence is worthless”–another great thought from Edie Melson.
Whether or not you are a writer, these quotes are great. Which one resonates with you?
Patience is God’s Gift for Every Mother
Has parenting had surprise moments that bring you up short and make it hard to be steady? This may seem like a crazy question, considering that Mother’s Day was just yesterday. It was a good day, made special by expressions of love from my kids and a lovely bouquet of roses from my sweet husband.
My Mother’s Day was a day of coming and going that made it impossible for the whole family to get together. One college student headed out the door for a week and the oldest college kid arrived home laden with a car full of dirty laundry, books, and stereo, and musical instruments. My dining room is filled with the college dorm paraphernalia that hasn’t found a place to roost for the summer.
Before leaving, my daughter cleaned up the kitchen unexpectedly. Score! What mom doesn’t love that particular surprise. Later in the day, my son fixed dinner, which was a treat. We were low-key and relaxed, grateful for the time together.
Basking in my Mama-glory, I remembered hard days when parenting was not peaceful.
I reflected on pull-your-hair-out times of frustration when I desperately needed God’s gift to every mother–the gift of patience. A fruit of the Holy Spirit, the presence of Christ expressing Himself from within my fallen frame, patience is a provision that helps mom’s stay steady and stand strong. In my own strength and ability, patience is a commodity of limited supply. Very limited.
Yet by God’s grace-gift, patience is available for every mom–fruit for the asking, growth for the willing, and provision for the weary.
We have had our share of challenges, and you probably have too. I love the celebrating the joys of family life.
In my book, it should be Mother’s Day every day!
When the challenges of parenting stir up uncertainties, fears, and frustrations, we need to hang on to patience, believing that God is faithful to help us in our parenting. Today, I am sharing at More to Be on how God strengthened me with a deeper understanding of patience–not just to keep it together as a mom, but also to wait patiently for Him to work in my kids. Patience for self-control and patience for faith–we need it both ways.
Stop by at More to Be for more on this subject as I share how God gave me the fruit of patience when my son decided it would be cool to do push-ups in the middle of a four-lane road.
How have God’s gifts helped you stay steady as a parent?









