14 Things I’d Say to My Younger Self About Being a Mom

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I sit on my bed, knotting up the hospital-blue sheets with fidgety hands. When I checked into the hospital a few days ago, I was just me.  Now I am a mother. I’m leaving the hospital with a baby and a car seat that I’m not quite sure how to work.

What if I can’t do this? I have no idea how to be a parent. The baby class taught us how to change a diaper and give a bath, but somehow this just isn’t enough preparation to bring a baby home from the hospital.

A few days later my mother in law, the baby pro, came to help out. She raised four boys and walks on water. I tried to learn everything about being a parent in those two short weeks.

I begged her not to leave.

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Though parenting is one of the great joys in life, we can struggle under the weight of responsibility. If I could go back and sit on that hospital bed with my twenty-seven-year-old self, I would pass along a few things I’ve learned.

Things I’d Say to My Younger Self About Being a  Mom

  • You can do this. You don’t have to be an expert to begin the parenting journey. You will learn and grow far more than you can imagine at this moment. You can do lot’s of mommy things and you have wisdom in your heart. You are stronger than you know.(Philippians 4:13).
  • Trust God to grow you into the best parent you can be. Parenting isn’t just for raising children–it is also for growing up parents. Never forget that God has entrusted you with children and will help you where you struggle if you will seek Him diligently (Proverbs 3:5-6).
  • Pray every day. Pray for your children, for your parenting, and your marriage daily. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you pray and give you wisdom (Philippians 4:6-7).
  • Be willing to wait. Today is not the end of the story. Some days and phases seem to inch along. Your baby will sleep through the night someday. The days of tantrums will pass. There will come a day when your child no will longer cling to your leg or grab hold of your shirt with messy hands. All the hard things will pass as you both grow through them. Be willing to wait and let nurture, time, and wisdom do it’s job. Some days may seem long, but the years are short. (Galatians 6:9)

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  • Find a godly mentor mom. Build a friendship with a more experienced Christian mom. These moms will encourage and advise you, helping you to overcome challenges and grow in faith. God is going to put some amazing women in your life to help you along the way (Titus 2:3-5).
  • Set realistic goals and expectations. Even though your child watches Baby Einstein videos, they probably won’t learn algebra before preschool. Many frustrations of parenting come when we expect a two year old to have the self-control of a five year old. Unrealistic expectations frustrate kids as well (Ephesians 6:4).
  • Don’t let nagging, complaining, or whining become the norm in your family. Negative attitudes are contagious and can become bad habits. Both kids and adults can struggle with these unpleasant behaviors. Never forget encouraging words empower our children (Philippians 2:14).
  • Laugh often and let yourself play. Make the most of your days and enjoy the little blessings along the way. Master the art of building with blocks, cherish the hilarious things kids say, and put on a ballet tutu and twirl. It’s easy to get bogged down with chores, tasks, attitudes, and stress. Find joy in the small ordinary moments with laughter and play (Proverbs 17:22).Parenting advice and encouragement
  • Don’t underestimate the importance of rest. Tired children are cranky kids, and weary mommies get fussy too. Exhaustion warps perspective, making small problems seem like the end of the world. Don’t buy into lie that your child doesn’t need a regular bed time. Nap time is a blessed space; keep a rest time in your schedule even after your child stops sleeping during naps (Lamentations 3:22-23).
  • Don’t neglect discipline and training. You are the parent, it’s your job to say no when needed and to enforce wise rules (Hebrews 12:11). Teach your children manners and model kindness. (Ephesians 4:32).

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  • Enjoy your kids every day. You will never have this day, this age again. Don’t let the hard moments cloud joy and appreciation of the gifts you have. Build the habit of seeking joy each day. Find something to appreciate, smile, laugh, or relish daily. A joyful heart creates energy and gives perspective.
  • Your kids are amazing and so are you.  Crafted by God, each one of us are made in His image. Enjoy the special qualities of your children and marvel at the wonder of God at work in their lives. (Psalm 139:13-16).

Make the most of each day as you love your children in the countless ways that best come from you, that special woman called Mommy. There is life, love, and wisdom that are your precious mother’s gift to your children. Each and every day look for the extraordinary in the small joys and little miracles that fill your life. After twenty-three years as a mom, these truths still guide my choices and encourage my heart.

You can find all the scriptures from this post listed here and here.

Friends, I’m excited to share this wonderful parenting resource from my friend Melanie Redd. Enjoy the trailer for her new book, “How to Win Your Child’s Heart for Life.” Melanie will be joining me for a guest post and book giveaway in the near future.

Linking at Coffee for Your Heart, Grace and Truth, and #TellHisStory.

10 Comments

  1. I was just thinking about this the other day, not the mom part but the perspective to my middle school aged self! Love this post Ginger!

    • Ginger Harrington

      I can’t believe how big your peeps are getting! LOVE seeing Ms. Orange on the blog today. So glad you found encouragement today. What would you say to your younger self?

  2. a great post! i’ll share – funny how much we know later that maybe someone even tried to tell us – some things we just learn on our own. thanks, ginger.

    • Ginger Harrington

      Thanks for sharing, Sue! I appreciate your kindness. Yes, it’s funny. Many of these things, I’d heard, but experience is the very best teacher. So glad we have crossed paths today.

  3. Such great advice, Ginger. There’s much for new moms to learn here and even grammy’s too! 🙂

    • Ginger Harrington

      Oooh are you a grammy? Love that name–may have to request that one when those days come (hopefully). Thanks for joining me today, Cathy. Your friendship is such an encouragement to me. Hope I get to see you in person soon!

  4. These are all great points, Ginger. I love that you mention finding a Godly mentor mom. I think we may have lost this in many aspects. I hope and pray to be a Titus 2 woman to a young mom. I appreciate the Titus 2 women that have come into my own life.
    Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.

    • Ginger Harrington

      Aimee, I’m pretty sure that God has used your heart, kind words, and wisdom to encourage many moms. I’m grateful for the mentors God provided in my life, but I’m equally grateful for the timely words many have encouraged me with. Whether we call it mentoring or simply friendship, we have many opportunities to speak life into others. Thank you for joining me this week.

  5. This is such a beautiful and encouraging post for a mom in the trenches like me! I am sharing this link today on my Facebook page so my friends will be blessed.

    • Ginger Harrington

      I’m so glad you found encouragement with this post. God teaches us so much in the process of parenting. I appreciate you’re sharing this post on your Facebook page. Blessings for a wonderful 2017!

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