“Mom, have you seen my stethoscope?” my daughter asks from her bedroom filled with boxes and bins. Packing, she is almost ready to go back to college. As a second year nursing student, her stethoscope just arrived yesterday. Just in time to pack for school.
Summer dwindles to it’s last days of freedom, but she’s excited to return to college, a place that’s become a second home. I peek into her room, tripping over a box. Looking around, I remember how I felt this time last year when my baby was leaving the nest for the first time.
Whether your student is your first, last, or in-between, leaving for college is an emotional time. Last year I wrote the following post, which has turned out to be one of the most popular posts on my blog. I decided to re-post this since is was such an encouragement to so many parents.
As I hug and kiss my girl goodbye, my heart is a mix of happy and sad. Sad that she’s leaving, but happy that she’s learning and growing.
This past year, I’ve experienced what my head knew but my heart didn’t: Leaving for college isn’t the end of the world.
It just feels like it at times, particularly freshman year.
Truth is, my girl had a good year and I did too. She loves college. I’m thankful she’s made a lot of good decisions and has matured in lovely ways. I’m proud of her and grateful God has protected and kept her heart focused.
I hope you’ll enjoy this post I wrote last year when the last child left for the first time.
9 Reasons Why it’s Okay to Cry When You Take Your Child to College
To my children, scattered far and wide, here’s a look at why it’s hard to say goodbye when you leave.
We won’t want to let go, but we will.
Will tears flow? Not sure, but if today is any indication, there will probably be a few.
Or a lot.
- Even though you are taller than we are now, it’s hard to believe you’ve grown up so fast. Taking you to college is stepping into that reality. No longer is “going to college” some vague mist of an idea far off in the future. The future is now. We’ve known your move in date for months, but what the head knows doesn’t always translate to the heart.
- The house will feel different now. The sounds, activities, and energy will change. At first, we’ll balk at the empty echo in the house, much like how sound changes when you take a carpet out of a room. For a little while, that hollow sound will have a feeling that sits uneasy on our hearts. We won’t like the empty place at the table and the unused smell in your room. We will adjust and life is still very good, but it will take some time let go.
- This is the beginning of a new season that will catapult you into your own life as an adult. In just a short time home will be a place you visit rather than live. That’s a hard thought for a mom to get used to. And dads.
- You won’t be part of our daily life anymore. Phone calls are good, and social media is nice, but it isn’t the same as sharing life face to face. The main part of your life won’t include our daily presence. This is as it should be, but it’s still an emotional hurdle to leap.
- We love you and will miss your beautiful smile and all the special things that make you, you. You are a joy in our lives and in some ways, we’ve come to depend on you, comfortable in our roll as moms. Though we have our own lives, mom has become both a roll and an identity. As we open our hearts to let you go, we have some new growing to do ourselves.
- We are proud of you. Some of these tears are excitement for the new friends and experiences you will have. The new things you’ll learn. We will watch from afar as you gain confidence and knowledge as you prepare for your future. You’ll l come home for Christmas, exhausted from exams. As you unload a car full of dirty laundry, you will walk in the house with a new maturity.
- We know we won’t be there on the days when you’re lonely or discouraged. We know you will learn to navigate problems and challenges, but sometimes this will be a struggle. This is a necessary part of growing up, but we don’t want you to have to face the hard days on your own. We want to be there to encourage you and cheer you on.
- We’ll have to get used to going to sleep without knowing you’re safely tucked in your bed at home. We’re moms and we’ve mastered the art of worrying. For so long, we’ve slept lightly, or stayed awake until you’re home.
- For parents, leaving for college feels like an ending before it feels like a beginning. We know you’re ready, but we’re not quite sure how to let you go. We’ll have to figure that out step by step over the next few months.
We have survived the teen years and are now launching young adults. We will adjust, and it won’t be as hard as it feels at this moment. But these are a few of the reasons mom’s shed a few tears when we leave our kids at college.
Oh, and one more thing what can make a parent cry when kids head to college–the college tuition bill!
What makes you emotional when your kid’s leave?
This post is inspired by my life situation and this post from Flown and Grown.
Other posts on kid’s growing up and leaving home:
Powerful Truth Gives Direction For Our Children
Letting Them Go: Faith Prayers For Our Children
Getting Ready For College: Don’t Let Worries Rob You of Joy