Fighting Fear: Winning the War at Home–a guest post by author Edie Melson




When Your Soldier Leaves for Battle

Today, war is a part of life.

It touches every family, as more and more have someone they care about serving in the military.

Saying goodbye to a loved one leaving for war is a gut-wrenching proposition. But for those of us left behind, it’s also the start of our own battle. Our oldest son went straight from high school graduation to Marine Corps boot camp to Iraq, where he served as an infantry Marine during two tours…and returned home physically disabled.

I learned so much during our son’s deployments and saw God work in ways I’d never imagined. As Jimmy left for his second tour in the Middle East, almost of its own volition, my mind seemed to drift to endless possibilities. Would this be our last picture together as a family, the last time I heard his voice, the last time I saw him smile. But through it all, God showed me how fruitless it was to dwell on the what-ifs of life.

My prayer life became vibrant and active—with a total reliance on God—for my son’s survival as well as my own. I came slowly and painfully to the truth that I wasn’t the one who had always protected and guided my children. God showed me they were, and still are, in His hands and I’ve come to rest in the knowledge that this is the best place for them.

In the past, I’d always voiced strong opinions about politics and policy. But with a son’s involvement, I discovered I wasn’t a political person. For me, war had become personal—no longer just a topic to be debated. It became about my child’s sacrifice, his willingness to put his life on the line for something he believed in. Something we all used to believe in—God and country.

As I said goodbye to the strong young man my son had become, I remembered the typical teenager who once thought the world revolved around him. He now loved his fellow Marines in a way most can’t imagine, putting their well-being far about his own. His former child-like selfishness had faded and his life became one of selflessness and sacrifice. Just as he learned to fight and carry a gun, he learned to love his fellow man in ways few experience.

While many see the physical side of war from a distance, many more experience it on a deeper level— through loved ones deployed around the world. For us, war is forever personal, illustrated with the faces of the people we hold dear.


Sending a son to war was not something Edie Melson ever thought she’d have to face. But that was exactly what happened when her oldest announced he was bypassing college and enlisting in the Marine Corps.

Edie understands what it is to face adversity and come out triumphant on the other side. Her years as a wife, mother and ministry leader have given her a unique perspective to reach out to others facing the same struggles. As a full-time writer, she’s always concentrated on telling the stories of others. In this book, she continues with those stories, but also shares her own challenges and the way God gave her the strength to endure.

As a sought after writing instructor, her heart to help others define and reach their dreams has connected her with writers all over the country. She also speaks at numerous women’s events, from conferences to retreats. You can visit her at her website, .

She’s a member of multiple civic and professional organizations, including the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, Blue Star Mothers, The Christian Pen, and American Christian Fiction Writers.

Married 30-plus years to her high school sweetheart, Kirk, they have raised three sons.

Fighting Fear: Winning the War at Home When Your Soldier Leaves for Battle is available online, through Barnes and Noble and Amazon, as well as in your local bookstores. Also, Edie is proud to announce that a portion of the proceeds from each book sold will be donated to the troops through the 501(c)3 organization, Blue Star Mothers of America. Learn more at,

Watch a book trailer for Fighting Fear: Winning the War at Home When Your Soldier Leaves for Battle.



  1. *waving my arms over my head* Pick me! Pick me!

  2. And on a more serious note, I’ve been in the service myself, have sent my Marine off to war multiple times, have lost friends to the war, and now have two children in the military. I look forward to reading Edie’s book and learning some tricks on how to cope with this new feeling of being a mother of service members. I can totally process the emotions of my spouse being in the military – but my children? Totally unprepared for how it has made me feel!

  3. Thanks for sharing this guest post! I love “meeting” your other friends and getting a fresh perspective of how sweet our God is! Looking forward to following you as you attend this year’s conference!

  4. what great insight, from a mom’s perspective. I can relate to saying the “what if’s” about my son’s medical issues. Needed to read that this morning, how “fruitless” it is. I continue to see God working in our life each day with him, but as a mom it can be so hard to let go and have total trust no matter the outcome.

  5. Larissa, I love getting to meet new friends through the blogs of long-time friends! Angel, it doesn’t matter what our children are doing, we all have trouble letting go and we all face the fear of what paths they’ll have to walk in life. I’ll be praying for your son. Blessings All, Edie

  6. I am really looking forward to reading this book. Thank you for sharing your story.

  7. Loved the song and embedded message of MY GOD EARS. Hmmm we ask and listen but usually with conditions…how long will you work with Lord?

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