Friendship is an art built on good habits of relationships. Learn to be the friend you long to have with 25 ideas for strong relationships. We don’t come into this world know how to be a good friend. If we look for the perfect friend, we won’t find one.  We will never be the perfect friend either. Friendship isn’t about perfection; it is about connection–and love, and joy, and giving, and being real, and letting others be themselves. 

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The Joy of Friendship

Toes splash in the water as three girls play, sharing hearts and enjoying the day. The joy of friendship radiates from their smiles and rings in their laughter. In this moment, friendship seems an easy gift on a warm summer day.

Friends, relationships, Ginger Harrington

Though some friendships come easily, most relationships are built over time. I remember days when my girls were small. With a tear-stained face, one asked me, “Why doesn’t Annie like me?”

How do I answer that? I don’t remember what I said exactly, but this little slip of a girl already understood that friendship isn’t always an easy thing.

The art of friendship is built on good relational habits. Learn how to be a better friend with these simple ideas to enjoy friendship today.

The Importance of Learning to Be a Good Friend

We don’t enter this world knowing how to be a good friend. A big part of growing up involves learning to be a good friend. Remember all those times you had to tell your kids to share and play nice?

On our hard days, we may be tempted to focus on disappointments in friendship. The friend that ignored our request, the one who betrayed our trust, or the one who left us out. We’ve all experienced a time when a friend didn’t act like a friend, and that is hard, sometimes heartbreaking. The rejection or betrayal of a trusted friend can wound and isolate us if we let it.

Sometimes those disappointments are what they seem, but others we may not have the whole story. When we shift our focus to being the friend we’d like to have, we begin to love others with our best self. The one that is secure in Jesus and ready to share his love with others. Which one of these ways of friendship creates a deep gladness in your soul? What is one thing you can to do today to be a good friend?

 

25 Practical Ways to Be a Good Friend

Build strong friendships with these helpful ideas for mastering the art of friendship.

  1. Take the initiative to invite friends to do things rather than wait for someone else.
  2. Be an encourager. Develop the habit of cheering for others and celebrating friends.
  3. Never underestimate the power of laughter and silly fun.
  4. Reciprocate—good friendship is a two-way thing. It can be hurtful to invest in a relationship and not have it reciprocated.
  5. Be reliable—show up and value being on time. Try your best not to disappoint friends who are counting on you.
  6. Follow through. Avoid vague comments, “Let’s get together soon.” Make a specific plan and follow through.
  7. Schedule time for friendship. It is an important part of life and not just a luxury. Stop feeling guilty about spending time with friends. Seriously, stop it!
  8. Be intentional. Don’t let busyness crowd out friendship. The busier you are, the more important it is to plan ahead for time with friends.
  9. Refuse to gossip and find a graceful way to squelch rumors when you hear them.
  10. Keep confidences. When a friend asks you not to repeat information, honor that request.
  11. Share the load. Volunteer to help, to listen, or to console when it is needed.
  12. Be real. Be brave about sharing your needs and struggles when appropriate.
  13. Give the grace-gift of belonging. Welcome newcomers and include others. You may have a set group of friends, but be willing to make room for more.
  14. Sit beside someone you don’t know well rather than always sitting with friends.
  15. Ask good questions that draw others into meaningful conversation. Small talk has it’s place, but sharing our real stories draws people together.
  16. Don’t monopolize conversations or only talk about yourself. Give the gift of a listening ear.
  17. Be thankful—a cherished friend is  a gift from God.
  18. Give a thoughtful gift or send a note of encouragement. Texting is great, but old-fashioned snail mail never gets old.
  19. Don’t hide or excuse your mistakes and weaknesses. We all have them.
  20. Avoid the trap of comparison and envy. Recognize these destructive thoughts and get rid of them.
  21. Be careful with expectations. Many feelings get hurt due to unrealistic or unmet expectations. Sometimes we don’t even realize we have them.
  22. Be quick to give and ask for forgiveness. Treat others the way you want to be treated in this difficult area of relationships.
  23. Let go of judgment, comparison, and criticism. Assume good will, giving others the benefit of the doubt.
  24. Pray for your friends and invite Jesus into your relationship. He knows how to be the best friend of all.
  25. Give your friend the biggest piece of cake.(I learned this one from my mama.) And don’t hog the last piece of chocolate…

We may not be able to do all of these things at the same time or keep it up all the time, but we can all do some of these things more often. Friendship is an art built on good habits of relationships. Let this list of practical ideas spark your own list of best practices for building strong relationships.

Which one of these habits has made a difference in your friendships? Which one do you want to work on? Let’s encourage each other through leaving comments today.

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I’m honored that this post was featured at For Every Mom!  I hope you enjoyed this updated version of one of my articles with the highest traffic over the years. For more content on friendship, check out the friendship chapter of my book, Holy in the Moment, or enjoy one of the related posts below.

Holy in the Moment will help you experience holiness and wholeness in your daily moments. Holy in the Moment includes Ginger’s personal journey in finding help and hope for anxiety, people-pleasing, perfectionism, discouragement, and insecurity as well as biblical insights and simple ideas to enjoy a deeper life with freedom in Christ. Bring the reality of grace, healing, and holiness into your daily experience with intentional choices.

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