Three Kinds of Friends You Don’t Want to Do Without

Friendship is not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing.

Friend quote

Each relationship is a one of a kind–there are no two exactly alike. Friendship comes in all shapes and sizes, each one as unique as the people who build the relationship.

You may have one friend you share deep conversations and another  you love to shop with. Every person is different and every friendship is unique.

.  Let each friendship naturally evolve and take its own path.

Most relationships will fall into one of three basic categories. It’s helpful to be able to recognize and appreciate how God blesses us with different kinds of friendships.

Three Special Kinds of Friends You Do Want to Do Without

Friends for a reason.

Friends for a season.

Friends for a lifetime.

I have friends God has brought into my life for a specific reason. For instance, there are women I work with in ministry. These women have become friends as we work together for a specific purpose.


God’s plan in bringing us together has a different purpose from the neighbor I enjoy chatting with in the yard.

Many friendships are often built around shared activities. Some friendships grow as a specific interest brings us together. These are also friends for a reason.

Some friends are right person at the right time.

Years ago I was diagnosed with Graves Disease just as we moved to a new city. I had many questions and needs as I struggled through difficult days. The first person I met was another mom who “just happened” to be a pharmacist. I know God brought this precious friend for a reason. Jen answered many questions, understanding the symptoms of a thyroid spinning out of control. She frequently checked on me and often watched my children so I could get some rest. I will be forever grateful that God brings special friends for a reason.

Friends for a Season

When we look back over the years, it’s easy to see people God brought into our lives for a season. I remember zany fun I had with my college roommates.

Silly friends

I still keep in touch with several of them through Facebook and Christmas cards, but it’s been years…and years since I have seen them.

As a military family, we have moved many times, making new friends in each location. I am grateful to have built relationships over the years. Though I’d really enjoy maintaining close contact with many, there is a natural ebb and flow of relationships through the seasons. When we understand this reality, we can be at peace with the friendships that change  over time.

Friends for a Lifetime

Deep friends of the heart–this is the friend you can talk to for hours even though you may not have seen each other in years. The lifetime friends from childhood can remember how awkward you were in middle school and love you all the more.

Best friend

Lifetime friends rejoice when your babies get driver’s licenses and graduate from college.

Deep friendships take time to grow. Friends for a reason, friends for a season, and lifelong friends are all a sweet treasure that I don’t want to do without. And given time, friendships often develop over the years, maturing beyond the initial reasons or seasons that brought us together.

Joining in with Coffee for Your Heart, Three Word Wednesday,  #TellHisStory,  Joy in the Everyday, and Grace and Truth.







  1. I really enjoyed this post, Ginger. I’ve had to face some hard realities in friendship over the past year and God has shown me that some friendships don’t hold the purpose I thought – but the one He needed them too. Ones I thought would last a lifetime proved to be for just a season. I’m grateful for the gift of friendship and more so, sisterhood in Him – those friendships born of grace, love, and authenticity. Thank you for sharing your perspective – it blessed me!

    • Ginger Harrington

      So glad to connect with you here in this bloogy-space. Friendship is an important part of life, and letting God direct our relationships helps us in so many ways. Thanks for stopping by today.

  2. Thanks Ginger, this really made me smile today as I thought about my friends, new and old – those that remain and those who have wandered through my life. Such a blessing 🙂

    • Ginger Harrington

      Yes they are. This motivates me to be more intentional about making time with friends. Thanks for stopping by today!

  3. Admittedly, I don’t really always like when friendships are for a season, BUT I know God has purpose in that, like everything. Thanks for this encouragement to seek out friendship. And thanks for linking up at #ThreeWordWednesday.

    • Ginger Harrington

      I’m always sad to leave friends when we move. I love that Facebook makes it easier to stay connected with friends that are far away, which helps many of those relationships last.

  4. I have a hard time of letting go of seasonal friends even when necessary. This is a great post thanks for linking up with #JoyHopeLive I hope you join us again tomorrow.

    • Ginger Harrington

      One of the things I dislike most is letting go of a friend. Yet sometimes in the rhythm and pace of life it happens. My best response is to be intentional in my relationships. Thanks so much for visiting today.

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